That is true. But could it also be because their love is just simply over and that they have both moved on to healthy, loving relationships of their own?
Sometimes people find that they can’t cope being lovers but were instead made to be friends. That’s how I came upon my best friend, and aside from the few times we wanted to murder each other, it’s been great.
For me I don’t think it works that way but it would be nice to think that sometimes it can work out that way, as we get older am sure its more plausable
What is Coco doing on Valentine’s Day? That is the question.
I suspect a hoard of handsome, rich, funny men are lining at her door as I write this comment, each of them holding presents wrapped in fancy paper and tied with colorful ribbons, and they recite poems for her, until she, about the time when the sun begins to set, puts on a red dress and high-heeled shoes and opens the door and takes her pick!
. Yes, that was how my day unfolded. Except I didn’t pick any of them. I walked past each, looking for a hatted-boy…so I could say, “BE MINE?” Because who wants a debonair man reciting poetry to her, when she could have the man who writes it?
I strongly believe it’s the 2nd reason, maybe it’s because I’m in that situation. . .I have an ex that I consider a close & best friend, and that I still say “I love you” to almost everyday, and not in a ‘friend-like’ way, & in her own ways, she says & shows it as well. Nice piece!
I know why I remain friends with my ex lovers. One in particular. I don’t know why he remains friends with me though. If the first reason is true, then I have been a bigger fool than I realised.
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This may be exactly why I have never been able to remain friends with any of my ex-boyfriends. I always wondered.
When I detach myself from ego, I find unconditional love, which to me is eternal trust. This level of trust does not ever go away, even when I stop being “in love”… that level of gratitude will always be there.
Blessings…
For me, with the ones I formerly loved, it was simply a matter of getting to a point of forgiveness. It took time. It’s not that we didn’t really love each other, nor did we not love each other.
I think it is because they love each other still.
Thank you for several of your likes on my blog and following it. I too have liked yours and am following you with immediate effect.
Bad break ups I take it or are you in that majority that doesn’t have that emotional maturity to stay friends? Because after all one has to assume while you were in love, you were friends?
Very true. But, IMHO, there is a difference from loving someone to being IN love with someone. Even though you may not be in love with an ex, a part of you will always “love” him or her.
I wouldnt know the answer… The only lover I have ever experienced, we became each other’s first lover on our wedding night and we’ve been each other’s only lover and best friend 20 years now. I wouldn’t have it any other way. No sad memories or attatchments or comparisons from the past.
Very true. But one thing to add – the love must go both ways. If it was only one-sided, it dies. Love feeds on love, and needs love to maintain itself.
I feel that once you have shared everything, then had some time away, you see each other as you really are. If you can get past the hurt, the friendship is deep and close. Cool blog and good responses!
Dear Coco, I’m an Aquarian. Perhaps you are too, as we are famous for remaining friends with exes. It’s one of my favorite things about this jewelry box of traits I was born with.
I live your quote! — bllu
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This is so true!
Love this. It’s very true.
As a romantic, I choose ‘they love each other, still….’
No it’s cos one knows where the other one hid the bodies.
Hahaha
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They love each other always.
How wise and how true.
Hello Clayton from Canada :]
Third reason – one of them is now gay. That’s my experience though
not sure about this one…
Gah, I was hoping there’d be more to that.
Haha I could write a whole long post on it. Would that suffice?
we’ll have to see
yes!
True in soo many ways!
That is true. But could it also be because their love is just simply over and that they have both moved on to healthy, loving relationships of their own?
Sometimes people find that they can’t cope being lovers but were instead made to be friends. That’s how I came upon my best friend, and aside from the few times we wanted to murder each other, it’s been great.
Aww! How lovely. Happy Valentine’s Day!
I love your name. Happy Valentines Day<3
Thank you!
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I love this post. It is completely true.
For me I don’t think it works that way but it would be nice to think that sometimes it can work out that way, as we get older am sure its more plausable
Love is and means to be always forgiving. Always forgive..always be friends.
Great blog. You have a wonderful way of expressing yourself. Talented!!
Thanks for sharing.
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What is Coco doing on Valentine’s Day? That is the question.
I suspect a hoard of handsome, rich, funny men are lining at her door as I write this comment, each of them holding presents wrapped in fancy paper and tied with colorful ribbons, and they recite poems for her, until she, about the time when the sun begins to set, puts on a red dress and high-heeled shoes and opens the door and takes her pick!
Happy Valentines Day my favorite writing man.
If Coco were a fruit, she would be a tasty peach!
If Vincent were a heart he’d beat bright red.
They still love each other
Your newest poem is totally breathtaking.
Thanks indeed!
Never let an old love interfere with a new love.
I strongly believe it’s the 2nd reason, maybe it’s because I’m in that situation. . .I have an ex that I consider a close & best friend, and that I still say “I love you” to almost everyday, and not in a ‘friend-like’ way, & in her own ways, she says & shows it as well. Nice piece!
I know why I remain friends with my ex lovers. One in particular. I don’t know why he remains friends with me though. If the first reason is true, then I have been a bigger fool than I realised.
For me, I love them still.
Very true, very true.
Quite true. Those could be the same reasons why we are not friends with our ex’s as well.
I am friends with one of my ex girlfriends. We had the most passion.
ps. I’m jealous of the picture of you and Richard Branson. He is one of my inspirations in life. I haven’t quite got up to his level yet though.
yes, it’s definitely one of those two reasons. except I don’t think I’ll ever know which one of the two it is.
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This may be exactly why I have never been able to remain friends with any of my ex-boyfriends. I always wondered.
this is a new fave <3
When I detach myself from ego, I find unconditional love, which to me is eternal trust. This level of trust does not ever go away, even when I stop being “in love”… that level of gratitude will always be there.
Blessings…
Love this and wish it would happen
Hopefully, they were friends before they became lovers…or at least pen pals (if the guy was still in prison).
Ich liebe dich auch, Coco mit dem Ginger Haar, Thanx4stopping by. Cheers.
Wow never thought about it that way…
For me, with the ones I formerly loved, it was simply a matter of getting to a point of forgiveness. It took time. It’s not that we didn’t really love each other, nor did we not love each other.
Shoot, that was redundant. I’m barely awake. Adrenal burnout + 7 kids + full time medical transcription work in the home = how am I even alive?
What I meant to say in that previous comment was: “It’s not that we didn’t really love each other, nor do we love each other now, either.”
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I think it is because they love each other still.
Thank you for several of your likes on my blog and following it. I too have liked yours and am following you with immediate effect.
I happen to be in this situation right now, even talk about it in my blog (shameless plug). For the record it’s the latter.
I’ve never been able to be friends with an ex. When it’s over it’s over, close it down, file it away and move on.
Bad break ups I take it or are you in that majority that doesn’t have that emotional maturity to stay friends? Because after all one has to assume while you were in love, you were friends?
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an interesting thought.
Because they can Illuminate : Mexico,Tokio and New York City !!
Too true!
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Simple truth at its simplest.
Very true. But, IMHO, there is a difference from loving someone to being IN love with someone. Even though you may not be in love with an ex, a part of you will always “love” him or her.
Oh, I loved that book.
…great shot! Great blog…it goes well like PB & J.
That is such an intriguing thought….it has made me think about some of my ‘friends’ in a new light…x
I wouldnt know the answer… The only lover I have ever experienced, we became each other’s first lover on our wedding night and we’ve been each other’s only lover and best friend 20 years now. I wouldn’t have it any other way. No sad memories or attatchments or comparisons from the past.
Very true. But one thing to add – the love must go both ways. If it was only one-sided, it dies. Love feeds on love, and needs love to maintain itself.
I feel that once you have shared everything, then had some time away, you see each other as you really are. If you can get past the hurt, the friendship is deep and close. Cool blog and good responses!
Dear Coco, I’m an Aquarian. Perhaps you are too, as we are famous for remaining friends with exes. It’s one of my favorite things about this jewelry box of traits I was born with.
I live your quote! — bllu